Warning. This guide isn’t just a guide. It’s honest, genuine, and pretty much effective. I know it’s not easy to be happy all the time, but a little effort never lets anyone down.

Most people around us, including you and I, look for external happiness, which means a source or a person who can give us that warmth and contentment. But that’s where we are wrong. Instead of hovering around and seeking happiness in something or someone else, look within yourself. The way you learn to love someone just because they make you happy, the same way someone sees you as their reason to smile. So if a third person finds happiness in you, why can’t we find that in ourselves? Why can’t we look within and love ourselves? It’s essential to adore yourself, your own company and not to be someone who depends on others for self-satisfaction.

More than just loving and accepting yourself the way you are, it’s about the art of not caring. This society has so much to say. About your choices, tactics, and basically, you’re whole existence. Knowing this fact, it’s so much easier not to care. Kyu ki Kuch toh log kahenge, logo ka kaam hai kehna. This translates to; people are going to talk—That’s what they’re meant to do. The whole idea of not caring requires self-control and self-preservation. It’s not easy, as said, but being able to block the negativity, accept criticism without a heavy heart, and always look at the brighter side shapes your heart and mind to remain a lot happier than usual. It’s all about what you choose to take in and leave out.

With all the pessimists in the world shooting comments in the air about you, it is very likely for us to have self-doubt. People who learn to love themselves are held back with some words leading to a rise of self-doubt and insecurities. It’s a whole cycle. No matter how much you do, there’s always a pitfall ready to take you in. But we got to learn how to climb out of the spiraling mess, rub the dirt-talk off our shoulders, and move on! So, don’t care what the aunty next door says about your status or what your uncle’s son is doing, which you aren’t. Just don’t. It’s not worth a thought.

This isn’t it yet. The worst setback from being happy is your past. Our past is always looked upon as a nemesis—something we constantly regret and wish to rewind and relive. We always choose to ponder upon the dark ages of our past and drown in second thoughts. This makes you scared of taking risks in the future. It blinds you to enjoy the moment and see what the universe wants you to see. So, it’s utterly useless to live in the past. As the movie “dear Zindagi” says, “don’t let your past blackmail your present, to ruin a beautiful future.” Your past is not you’re enemy but a lesson that prepares you for your destiny. You’re meant to be here, so embrace it.

So folks, love yourself, smile a little more, dance in the shower for two more minutes, talk to yourself in the mirror, spend quality time with yourself because no one in this whole world is capable of providing a lifetime of happiness. But you have that power. Own it. Yes, it is challenging. There’ll be grey days, but it is about how stronger you come off the next day. Life’s too short to be wasted on others.
Thank you.